Over the weekend I was asked by a lovely friend I’ve known for years if I would take on a particular task that she felt obliged to let go of because she is too busy.
My reply was that I already had 2 projects on the go that I’d taken on and was having some trouble progressing because I had just a couple too many projects.
I said no and suggested others who might be approached about the project she was seeking to relinquish.
Are you the dependable one, conscientious, reliable, delivering on time and just a tad overwhelmed or exhausted with no time to yourself or no time to complete projects within the deadlines?I’m calling you part of the club-jam-sandwich generation stuck between too many commitments and responsibilities – maybe with still adolescent unreliable offspring and aging friends or parents and yet still also in charge of household bills, meals, and food shopping.
Your time is jammed. Too much on for others, not enough time in the day. Not enough time to meditate in the morning, book a massage, beauty treatment or a yoga class? Not enough. Time to rest, not enough sleep.
We all know the maxim, ask a busy person to do something if you want something done.
If you are seen as strong and capable people then people ask you to do stuff, join their projects, help manage their burdens. Or they may want you to listen to their difficulties but have little energy to hear you vent.
People rarely ask an apparently strong person if they’re tired or scared.
“It may be your turn to rest or to share a problem. You don’t have to be the strong one all the time.”– WalkTall Mary
The greatest compliment you can pay a trusted friend or your offspring is to share your hassle or dilemma and listen to them understanding and empathising. Soothing to the soul.
Wishing you the best.
